Monthly Archives: February 2016

Anarcho-Yakitalism Ep.71 – Metacognition and Metatalk with Darrell Becker

Re-Posted from the Anarcho-Yakitalism Podcast:

Direct download: AnarchoYakitalism-metadarrell.mp3

Darrell Becker returns to build off the methods of Non-Violent Communication and the Trivium, now we’re looking at the way we think and the way we talk in a little more depth. Here are the methods and notes Darrell and I talked about:


Metacognition is “cognition about cognition”, “thinking about thinking”, or “knowing about knowing”. It comes from the root word “meta”, meaning beyond. It can take many forms; it includes knowledge about when and how to use particular strategies for learning or for problem solving.
“Meta-writing” is writing about writing. “Meta-singing” is singing about singing. “Metatalk” is talking about communicating – i.e. cooperative discussion between partners about their shared communication process.

When I listen to others, and when I’m writing or working to recap what I’ve said or written, I look at mostly 5 components:
1. Claims being made (by whom?)
2. Supportive evidence connected or referenced to each claim.
3. Concerns being written or spoken (by whom?), explicitly or implicitly.
4. Supportive evidence connected to those conerns.
5. Actions being advocated or suggested (by whom, actions completed by which individual(s) or groups?).

I look to see attitudes:
1. Is there an attitude of curiosity and wonder, looking to discover more than what was initially known? (The Discovery Perspective)
2. Is there an attitude of extreme confidence in certain pieces of knowledge, wherein questioning the sources or supportive evidence isn’t acceptable to someone?
3. What are the ephemeral levels of respect going on, within and between each communicating individual?

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Freedom Lovin’ #94: Non Violent Communication With Darrell Becker

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In this episode of Freedom Lovin’ Podcast I talked to my friend Darrell Becker.

We talked and delve into Non-Violent Communication (NVC) and a bit on the Trivium method of critical thinking.

In this episode you will learn practical tips on how to use NVC in your day by day, understand some communication errors that lead to alienated communication of life or disconnected communication and finally – learn some of the fundamentals of Trivium method.

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Introduction – Darrell’s background [2:30]
How Darrell ended up in Hawaii. [4:30]
Reason that he chose acupuncture as a career [8:40]
What opened Becker’s eyes to NVC [10:50]
How NVC brought more freedom to his life [13:00]
Some of the ways that Becker applies NVC in day-to-day [17:30]
The four D’s and what is disconnected communication [22:00]
How Trivium method of critical thinking can improve NVC [31:00]
How NVC helps Darrell with his clients [35:00]
Difference between needs in NVC and needs in common sense [40:00]


Trivium method of critical thinking
Needs Inventory
Complete Liberty
School Sucks Podcast
Anarcho-preneur Podcast

Books Mentioned:

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

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